By Lana M.
There is a point of aberration in groups that needs to be acknowledged.
It exists to a heavy degree in the Sea Org, as well as in Class V orgs (though it is not reflected in LRH tech or policy anywhere).
You can see it also in the world at large – in companies, in industry, in the school yard – and certainly in many families. And you can see examples of it throughout history.
What I am talking about is a total no-sympathy attitude.
In Scientology you can see this demonstrated towards someone with a non-optimum body situation, or someone in ethics trouble, or someone who has been taken off post for some reason. And certainly you can see it in a no-affinity for someone who is not following orders or demands from the group — such as to donate large sums, or to join staff or the SO.
It is a withdrawal of all affinity for a person, from the group, leaving the person feeling incredibly alone.
At the Int base the “no-sympathy” was horrific. An unparalleled group bank phenomena that made the suppression and off-policy scene there far worse. A person would be taken in for an ethics interview, based on an inspection or “bad comm cycle” with COB. Some withholds would be found in the interview, and then these would be announced to the entire crew of 300 people (or to the entire Int base), and the person would be shunned, by everyone. This was something I saw occurring from early on – but it amplified through the 90’s and by the 2000’s had become unparalleled to anything I had ever experienced. The total no affinity from others in the group forces a person to pull their anchor points in, and works to push them down the tone scale. To put them at effect.
When I left the SO I was saddened to find that my (now ex) husband had brought this same attitude home with him. Despite pointing it out – he was unswerving in his no sympathy and lack of affinity.
In my view, the “no-sympathy” that we see within the C of S these days has been adopted by both local orgs and public themselves as a copy of the “almost cold” personae of RTC Representatives, and of course DM himself. It is taken on by staff and public as the ideal way of acting, yet it is the opposite to LRH’s personae and affinity for others. And it is essentially like trying to have a two way communication cycle with no affinity. It is impossible. It does not work. And of course, for auditors adopting this beingness, it is an impossibility. The session is doomed from the beginning. You cannot expect a person to make any gain when there is no ARC.
Then recently I read the LRH definition for “no sympathy” in the Tech Dictionary. I wanted to share it with everyone, as it actually blew charge for me, and showed me what is actually happening with this “no sympathy” group bank we have or are experiencing.
- it’s a blackout, it’s an occlusion. “I’m not going to feel sympathy for it” is actually the phrase that goes with the concept. (5208CM07B)
- he’s bound and determined not to be sympathetic, and that’s the emotion of no sympathy. (5208CM07B)
- is an emotion and an action. One puts a black curtain before himself to prevent his feeling affinity with that which he is hurting.” (Scn 8-80)
That black curtain – that people put up to stop them from hurting – that is what the person receiving the no sympathy experiences. A black curtain. And the confusion it generates can be awful.
But heck – realizing now that the no affinity I have received (over time) has been from people who are hurting from seeing, witnessing, or being part of a given situation – that makes a lot of sense to me.
It is a person’s coping mechanism. It is denial by the person witnessing the situation. And they adopt a no sympathy towards me and others, as a way to not confront the scene – to separate themselves out from it.
In other words – THEY are not coping with what they are seeing and experiencing. THEY are the ones that are effect – and they are dramatizing this by displaying a total no affinity for you and others in that situation.
This realization proved to me that the majority of people from whom I experienced no-sympathy are actually good people, well intentioned, who have been as confused as me about the circumstances they find themselves in.
I guess it is like putting my auditor hat on, and being responsible for them, as well as myself.
Even if they are expressing a total no sympathy – I have not withdrawn my affinity for them. And with this knowledge, it opens the door to actually getting THEM in communication and sorting out what they are unable to confront.
Someone asked me once, who at Int would you rescue, if you could. The answer is EVERYONE! In fact, I will help anyone in the SO, on staff, public, under the radar, above the radar, or anywhere.The fact is that the no sympathy that the group is dramatizing is simply proof that the people doing it need help.
So, next time you experience some no sympathy – pour on the coals of affinity with them, and get them in COMMUNICATION, and I betcha the results will be startling!