*this article was published 1 1/2 years ago on a different blog, and we felt it was well worth republishing on the Milestone Two blog.
By Lana M.
My 3 year old took a tumble this last week and unfortunately I was not on location at the time to be able to do a contact assist with him. A sad boy returned home with a huge fat lip, dried blood, grazing all over his nose, cheeks and substantial cut under his lower lip. He refused to let anyone touch his face, even to wash the blood off. And he went off all hard food (I later discovered he had badly knocked a front tooth which was consequently sore).
The incident had been substantial and clearly an engram for him – with his tone, demeanour and communication level all adversely impacted. Instead of sleeping through the night, he woke 5 – 6 times, calling out, wanting comfort and several times being in a dreamy nightmare of sorts.
So I pulled out the Assist pack to work out how to remedy the situation. I have come to love the Assist Pack. It seems to have a solution for anything. As my young one was not willing to talk about the accident, and it was very hard to get an accurate account of what did actually occur, I opted for a simple process — Reach and Withdraw.
That afternoon, while driving around the farm and getting the dogs to stretch their legs – I asked him to touch his (injured) nose. He refused. So I pointed to the passenger side rear mirror (he was standing on the passenger seat as we crawled along at 5km an hour) and asked him to reach for his nose in the mirror. He laughed and reached out and touched his nose in the image in the mirror. I asked him to then withdraw from it. He did. I repeated the command 2 more times and there was an instant change in tone. I continued it, as a game, asking him to reach for his chin, and then his lips and then his tongue and then his teeth. Once that was clearly flat I asked him to reach for his own lips (without the mirror) and he did. And then withdraw. And then his nose. And then withdraw. And then his chin and so on.
Watching this large being in a small body get back into communication with his injured face was incredible. I saw a mass blow, his face lightened and his tone returned to its normal chirpy and lively self. In the last 48 hours his face has almost healed. The swelling is gone. The scrapes and grazing has healed. And he is sleeping again and eating normally.
The wonders of a simple Assist. Just marvellous.