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By Lana M

We are lucky to have many young children in our midst.

I am blessed with two rascals (now 5 years and 8 years old) and there are many others in the field also have young ‘uns, keeping them occupied and busy.

Every child is different — with their own unique personality, quirks and abilities. They say the most outrageous things at times, and I have come to know both my children well.

I have my own ideas about them individually, but I am careful not to evaluate for them, or share any ideas I may have with them. I know that eventually they will be receiving auditing and they can enjoy the journey to discover for themselves.

I wanted to write a post that acknowledges and celebrates the incredible young beings in our midst, as we are so lucky to have so many able beings bringing happiness and fun to our lives.

I also felt it fitting to republish LRH’s words on the subject, for those who may not have read the bulletin before:

“CASE EVALUATION AND CHILDREN

“One sometimes sees children being given evaluations or invalidations about case or identity by parents or others. This should not be done.

“I’ve heard of parents speculating on a child’s identity in his previous life-time, and even telling the child “who he is” or “who he was”: “Why, I think you must have been George Smith.”

“Yes, here’s our new little baby girl. We’re just sure she’s Bob’s dear old Aunt Bessie-she has the very same beingness!”

“Sometimes this takes the form of asking the child leading questions, giving hints or making suggestive comments. It is pure evaluation and can hang the child with a wrong item.

“The same goes for speculations about what a child’s case state might be or what sort of processing he or she might have received in a past life:

‘You must have gone Clear last life.’

‘You’re such a bright and able little fellow – I’ll bet you went OT in your last life, and here you are, back again!”

“Anyone thought to be a certain person or thought to have been audited to a certain state of case should not be told so, whether they’re a baby or otherwise. Nor should they be invalidated if they say they are.

“If the child is speculative about his own identity or case state, the correct action is to allow the child to work it out for himself. The wrong action would be to hand him your own opinions or reject, invalidate, belittle or refute his originations:

“Child: ‘Daddy, last lifetime my name was Joe Thompson and I was an OT! ‘

“Daddy: (Laughing) ‘That’s very cute, son!  Don’t go saying things you know you’re just making up.’

or

‘No, no, you’re my long-lost Uncle James.’

“A child has his own beingness and his own state of case. They are uniquely his. The same applies to persons of any age.

“The truth will emerge in processing anyway. So leave it up to the auditor.”

LRH, HCOB 4 Dec 1985, Tech Vol XIII

10 thoughts on “They come back

  1. I can think of few things more appalling than this kind evaluation of children. My wife and I have discussed for years what we think of our daughter’s history, and now our grandchildren. But never ever can I imagine sharing those thoughts and discussions with them. Can you imagine doing the same thing with guys you play basketball with or women you go shopping with? If not, then how can you imagine it would be okay with kids? They’re going to have a hard enough time figuring out where they fit in the broad scheme of things without your “help”.

    Kids are endlessly fun to watch. Your job is to prevent them from hurting themselves and assist in their growing up. Let them do so and encourage them, without unnecessary “help” from you.

    • Absolutely, Scapjappers. The adventure of discovering exactly who they are (or were) is THEIR adventure to have, experience, and enjoy.

  2. Good post, Lana. I’d like to mention a couple of things:

    First, I agree with Paul and was going to say a similar thing about how we don’t give a second thought to doing this with our friends or our 2D partner or workmate or any other “adult” – and we do do it. And it can have the same consequences. (So, good point, Paul!)

    The second thing is, it IS possible WE may be wrong ourselves in “knowing” (or “thinking we know”) who they were/are. Per the L4BRA, we could be given them somebody else’s item (ours) or not accepting an item volunteered by them. Serious case errors result.

    Again, excellent post; it bears repeating and understanding.

    P.S. Lots of good LRH references on children, as well as Ruth Minshull’s “Miracles For Breakfast”.

  3. CB:

    Excellent point (I didn’t make) on being wrong in your evaluation. And now you’ve potentially stuck the person/child with a wrong item. Just imagine the possible case/life damage.

    Paul

  4. Exception to the rule of course when the kid tells you he was the IRS criminal investigator working on your backaudit in the previous life and the only thing that let you off the hook was his “untimely and unexpected” departure. The procedure would be the same although drastically ramped up if you also had a hand in that too. 😀

  5. Great reference Lana.
    One of the biggest mistakes I have seen untrained Scns make, is to evaluate for their child as LRH explains in this HCOB. Even more unbelievable is to invalidate them. Then, over the years to see that child develop into an adult with problems. Just unnecessary and stupid!
    Every child has their own uniqueness and purpose, and it is the duty of the parent to search that out and back it up, as a part of the hat of a parent.
    I know there is such a thing as a child with problems, but I think LRH says somewhere, that in the majority of cases, when adults bring the children in to be audited for bad behaviour, its the parents who need auditing, so true!

    • Thanks 4 a.

      A few years back when I used to attend mothers groups with my own infants and toddlers on the hip, there was a mother who obsessively stopped anything her infant tried to do. He would reach, climb, touch or pick things up and her immediate reaction was to stop him, check him or restrain him. She meant well. She was trying to “protect” her baby, but the result was terrible. This infant and then toddler would bite (hard) his mother, his siblings and other kids. Did quite some damage, poor kid. It was the only way he could communicate his frustration and protest and it caused serious waves with others.

      It was difficult to sort out as the mothers attempts to control were making the situation worse. And she was so worried about just letting her kid be and do, without intervention.

  6. Wow, thanks for posting this, Lana. This is important data that people who have children need to know and apply.
    I had never read this issue before. Much appreciated. I wish that had had it many years ago when I discovered someone I knew was doing this to their children. (Unfortunately, the bulletin had not been written yet.) I got that person to end cycle on that activity (at least when I was around) by “reading the riot act” and referring them to the part in the auditor’s code where it says not to evaluate.

    …Come to think of it, it amazes me that Ron even had to write this bulletin, it is so obvious. Occasionally, someone will try to tell me that the auditor’s code is only for auditing sessions, but when I am told that, I invite them to read the last paragraph of the Auditors Code in the Creation of Human Ability which says as it refers to the code,
    “It contains the important errors which harm cases. It could be called the moral code of Scientology.”

    Can’t get much plainer than that as far as I am concerned. But I guess some people need to have it spelled out for them in detail. This will come in very handy if I run into that situation again.
    Thank you.

  7. Don’t forget, too, that an infant or toddler has just recently been through the potentially traumatic experience of dying, depending particularly on how s/he died, and need time to sort this out and get some distance from it. Studies of children who recall a past life seem to generally find young children who are old enough to have developed some verbal skills and some distance from that experience. I think LRH mentioned this, too. Thus they need kindness and safety, not evaluation and invalidation.

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